tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post3174065265653143833..comments2023-10-29T02:30:23.642-07:00Comments on Calvin On Tap: Housework and Sex: Gettin' You Some More or Role Reversal?John Sawtellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04570490352354572664noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post-57218791081413828302008-08-27T13:07:00.000-07:002008-08-27T13:07:00.000-07:00Vanessa,I believe I said that any reasonable man w...Vanessa,<BR/>I believe I said that any reasonable man would do what it takes to make the load lighter for his wife when she multitasks at home and work. <BR/><BR/>I wonder if you would be willing to concede that any of the points I made about the article were correct. I mean, wouldn't you agree that this lady wrote the entire piece with vieled axe to grind?<BR/><BR/>jsawJohn Sawtellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04570490352354572664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post-78248171009630510872008-08-26T21:53:00.000-07:002008-08-26T21:53:00.000-07:00Oh men, why does everything have to be about contr...Oh men, why does everything have to be about control? Is it possible that while the man is working all day, the wife is also working just as hard all day taking care of the kids? Perhaps, the author of the article was attempting to describe the feeling that is created when your partner does something to help you. It feels good when your spouse takes responsibility around the house and takes it upon himself to lighten his wife's "load." In the stereotypical relationship, the man works during the day for approximately 8 hours and then he is done. While the wife works from the minute she gets up until the minute she goes to bed, while sometimes taking some time for herself before she passes out from exhaustion. A man is not buying his wife as a full time slave when he is the dole provider. What he is doing, is ensuring that a parent is raising their children while he is away from the home. Most women would not be aroused from turning their husband into a doormat. However, it is a sign of respect, compassion and understanding when your spouse makes the effort to show his love by making your day easier. I, for one, want nothing more than to return the love right back to my husband in the best way I know how.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11615326474141793588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post-51968729732784817942008-08-23T07:11:00.000-07:002008-08-23T07:11:00.000-07:00Lawrence,You hit the nail on the head. Its not abo...Lawrence,<BR/>You hit the nail on the head. Its not about sexy, its about control, and that is what this domestic egalitarianism is about. I am not advocating that the man be a total slob or never lift a finger around the house. What I perceived was, that this was not about sex, it was about control and role reversal. Sex comes in only after the fact as a reward for the guy being good and for acknowledging his new equal or inferior position.<BR/>jsawJohn Sawtellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04570490352354572664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post-32265376991818032682008-08-22T06:38:00.000-07:002008-08-22T06:38:00.000-07:00It's not that wives find it sexy, it's that wives ...It's not that wives find it sexy, it's that wives find it empowering. And any follow-up sex then gives the same feeling of empowerement... for all the wrong reasons.<BR/><BR/>Nothing feeds a woman's sinfully misguided self-esteem more than feeling like she is compleletly in charge of everything and everyone around her. Of course, we can say the same thing about men who abuse their wives.<BR/><BR/>And guilt is a powerful emotional tool to use on men who normally don't function based solely on emotion.Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05455224102269643507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4232379321118598496.post-71747836024529421852008-08-20T23:09:00.000-07:002008-08-20T23:09:00.000-07:00Spot on article, again. I also agree this is posit...Spot on article, again. <BR/><BR/>I also agree this is positing a subtle but real power play and sex is wielded as both carrot and stick: (hopes of sex VS no sex, just nag).<BR/><BR/>Furthermore sexual intimacy should flow out of mutual love, respect and relational intimacy and yes even marital duty. Sex should <I>never</I> result from some manipulative work-reward equation.<BR/><BR/>In fact the worlds oldest profession uses an eerily similar equation. Except the terms are upfront, with a clear medium of exchange and no nagging to boot. No wonder it has thrived for eons!<BR/><BR/>I just saw an ad on TV depicting the ideal husband: a sexy hunk, who joyfully ironed the laundry and washed out the toilet--all while shirtless of course--and was super considerate on the phone, thinking and planning for all the woman's needs. A perfect cross between a personal servant, social arm candy and dildo: truly an "empowered" woman's dream.JMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02690716885002936216noreply@blogger.com